tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post3543485470248349559..comments2023-03-24T07:57:55.498-04:00Comments on Our Life on Christ: Men No Longer Required in Child RearingFit and Freehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14862627803604801246noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-15954722656619450522010-10-09T23:57:23.000-04:002010-10-09T23:57:23.000-04:00I agree, ideally every child would be raised by wi...I agree, ideally every child would be raised by with mother and father but the truth is that single parenthood has become the norm because of irresponsible people. People fail to realize that a child is a life-changing event. When you have a child you should be fully aware that you are responsible for shaping their life, ideals. perceptions. People are too careless and then children come along as a result and then they don't know how to deal with it (men) so they run or proceed to simply exist around the child with no real involvement. I don't think that a woman should seek to become a single mother just to experience the joy of child-rearing. If she can't find a compatible relationship and provide a good example of a healthy relationship to a child- then she has no business raising a child. I feel like people attempt to distort reality too much. They know the truth, but something inside them just wants to be the exception to the rule and prove to everyone or may just themselves that they themselves were able to change reality. Seems like a God complex to me.Kellinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-23128522535526178662010-10-10T15:44:51.000-04:002010-10-10T15:44:51.000-04:00Wow, Kelli! Thanks for the feedback. This is a maj...Wow, Kelli! Thanks for the feedback. This is a major issue that somehow needs to turn around...Anji Mabonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-15461920968129862372010-11-15T16:23:43.000-05:002010-11-15T16:23:43.000-05:00I've seen you repost this several times, and I...I've seen you repost this several times, and I've finally decided to read it. While generally I agree with you, your last paragraph is a bit harsh and it irritates me.<br><br>I've been without a husband for over 2.5 years. I have two little girls age 7 and 11. It's not that I don't want a husband, I do. But I'm not going to run right out and get one like it's a jug of milk. My life is not utter chaos and we aren't wrecking havoc on the world. (Unless you count tearing a haitian hillside apart with a pickax and shovel to build the foundation of a church.) <br><br>Do I have major support from my family? No. Strong male influence in our life? No not really. And nobody seems really interested in filling that role, not even my brother. I have a great church family and I lean on Jesus to fill that need for us. And I really don't hear any strong words from him saying that it's time to get married again. If/when He says it's time, then it will be time. So your closing words irritate me. And Wal-Mart shoes do us just fine... what good use does anybody really have for Manolos?!Sara Daileyhttp://sararosedailey.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-43981043161258219082010-11-16T01:37:55.000-05:002010-11-16T01:37:55.000-05:00@Sara Dailey - Anji is not stating that single mot...@Sara Dailey - Anji is not stating that single mothers need to run out and get a man. What she is saying, is that there's women out there who are willingly bringing children into the world that will not have a father--by her choice. God obviously didn't make us asexual, so why do people violate his process to fulfill our own personal desires? I grew up not knowing my father, therefore my mom had to play the father's role as well. She provide love, support and guidance such as I'm sure you are doing for your children, however, just because women are capable of doing so, doesn't justify the action. It's not what God intended!<br><br>Men are pivotal in the upbringing of children. I can't even see how this statement can even be debatable! But I will say that the Wal-Mart and Manolo shoes comparison may not have been the best analogy, it seem that comparison stood out more than the actual message. We will take that analogy out because we don't want to give off the wrong impression, we don't wear high fashion, nor do we desire it. So thank you for reading the post and for responding with honesty and emotion!<br><br>God Bless you sister, I'll pray that God continues to give you the strength, discernment and wisdom to lead your family.Wil Mabonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-72697935085639030222010-11-16T04:26:10.000-05:002010-11-16T04:26:10.000-05:00Thanks Wil (And Anji for posting) I completely agr...Thanks Wil (And Anji for posting) <br>I completely agree the belief with men being pivotal in bringing up children. Thanks for sharing your experience. As for women chosing to bring children without a father- you are right- It's not God's best for us.<br><br>I guess what irritated me is that it isn't always a choice. Certainly not for me and other young widowed mothers and even moms who have been left by men who have decided they don't want to be married anymore. I also know a woman who has fostered and adopted two babies who were born addicted to drugs, and whose 'parents' refuse to get help. These little girls need a father too - but they are much safer with this single mom (a sweet loving teacher with no natural children) than with their crackhead parents.<br><br>Rather than argue with you, I think I should have gently highlighted the situation of people who don't have a choice. For that I apologize!!! I hope that your lives will touch someone who perhaps is thinking about chosing to start a 'family' without a loving husband.<br><br>Thanks for praying for me. I often consider the fact that my children are growing up without an earthly father. I'm just believing in the God's promise to be a Father for the fatherless. I hope he decides to bless us with a wonderful man to be a good spirtual leader in our home - I'll take it!!!Sara Daileyhttp://sararosedailey.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5604467409717581458.post-6451214479021933792010-11-16T05:49:26.000-05:002010-11-16T05:49:26.000-05:00Thanks, Sara! You were right, the Manolo comment w...Thanks, Sara! You were right, the Manolo comment was a bit harsh. I didn't mean for it to be but I can see how it could be taken that way. At the time when I wrote it, I think<em> I</em> was irritated by what I saw on the magazine cover. I know certain situations force women into being single mothers; I was just put off by the fact that someone would choose that just for "the fun" of it. Rescuing needy children is great and I didn't even think about that when I was writing.<br><br>Much love to you and we will continue to pray for you and your girls!Anji Mabonnoreply@blogger.com