Husbands Need to Submit!

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“Well, the bible says, ‘Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands,’’ is how I used to respond any time I attempted to throw my weight around and get my wife to do what I wanted her to do. At the time, neither of us was really reading the bible so my wife couldn’t rebut with any biblical passages. If she only knew that the next verse (Colossians 3:19) read, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them,” I envision the arguments proceeding very differently.

Over the past year or so I have found that the best way to get your wife to submit to you (some women don’t like the word “submit” but, hey, it’s biblical and it really means to accept something or to be agreeable) is to be in constant submission to God. If a woman feels that a man is forcing her into something just for the sake of doing it, she will either fight back or quietly go along with his demands but secretly resent him, which will definitely lead to future problems.

But how do you make sure you’re always in line with God’s will and submit to it? If you feel that you are submitting to God, how can you get your wife to submit? These are my suggestions:


Make Bible study a routine in your house: How are you ever going to know what God’s will is if you don’t read His word?! Do it. Make it a point to do study the Bible as a family.

Pray together often: Prayer is a time when you are being honest with God and yourself. To open up in front of your wife helps her to understand your heart and, in turn, will help her to “fall in line” (don’t be mad at me, ladies!).

During decision-making time, be gentle with your wife: It is not easy to surrender to someone else. Remember that. You are asking your wife to do something that can be difficult at times. Try to understand her point of view and opinions. Take everything into consideration.

Check your motives: Are you trying to bring glory to yourself or God? Are you attempting to please God or the world with your actions? Make sure you know why you want to do something before you ask your wife to go along with your plans. You may find that your motives are not aligned with God and, therefore, you should not proceed—you will not even have to try to force your wife into something and will be saved from an argument. You can thank me later.

While you are trying these “tactics” out and learning to fully submit to God, if you always simply express yourself in love to your wife, things will automatically show some improvement in your household. Remember men, we are the leaders in our homes and if something is out of whack, it has been placed on us to fix it!

Wil